You can find relationship advice without even looking. From books on relationships to relationship-focused television shows, everyone has something to say about relationships. The worst culprits are the people in your life who are well-intentioned but misguided in the advice they offer up so freely.

The truth of the matter is that nobody really knows anything more than you do about how to have a great relationship. Sure, some people have read a better relationship book (or written one) and some people have more experience than you do with dating but that doesn’t mean that they know what they’re talking about. Just take a close look at their own relationships and you’ll probably find that they feel as muddled as you do.

The only person that really holds the keys to a happy relationship in your life is you. You need to get to know yourself and your own desires. You need to find ways to identify your needs and then be able to clearly articulate them to another person. And you need to get skilled at figuring out which people in your life are good for you and which ones aren’t.

That’s not to say that you shouldn’t look to the advice of others. It’s always good to get some outside perspective on what you’re going through. Just remember that when it boils down to it, the relationship that you’re going to have for the rest of your life is the one you have with yourself. Work on developing that and the rest will follow.

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